Many believe that when a guy approaches a girl and she says “No,” but he keeps showing up at her in her private space, her office, and even tracing her home. We call it “chasing”  and we often think it’s a way off showing off his love to the girl, he is obsessed and not in love.To be honest there is a very thin line between someone who is genuinely interested in you and someone who is a stalker.

We need to be very clear: Stalking is not a sign of love neither is it a romantic display but rather a tactic to gain control of you.

Society has fooled us for a long time that  when someone is in love with you they will never take NO for an answer. This belief gets people hurt. When someone ignores your boundaries, it is a red flag. A person who truly respects you will respect your space.

A stalker, however, wants your fear to be able to control you effortlessly and  not your heart. They aren’t trying to win you over; they are trying to put you in a difficult situation where you feel you have no choice but to give in.

How They Operate

Stalkers are often very quiet and patient and very dangerous. They monitor you closely, watch your routines, they don’t respect your boundaries, and they escalate their behavior quietly. They know almost everything about you, when you close from your work place, your home address, where you hang out and who you hang out with. The most dangerous ones might not even say anything at all. They stay quiet and plan their next move on you, this is not love but sign of a predator who moves in the shadow to hunt their prey.

The Five Faces to Watch Out For

To stay safe, you must recognize that stalkers come in different forms:

1. The Rejected One: They can’t accept that the relationship is over.

2. The Resentful One: They feel you “ruined” their life and want to make you pay.

3. The Intimacy Seeker: They have a delusion that you are “meant to be” even if you don’t know them.

4. The Incompetent Suitor: They feel entitled to you just because they want you, regardless of your feelings.

5. The Predatory One: They are quietly planning something harmful.

Why You Must Trust Your Gut

 If you feel like you are being watched, or if someone’s “obsessed” about you and this is making you feel like you are not comfortable, don’t wait till they take action on you. You need to prioritize your own safety. Awareness saves lives. Stalking is often just the beginning of a Cycle of abuse.

If you are in this situation, tell someone you trust. Report to security agents. Document the times they show up. Don’t “manage” it alone. You deserve a relationship built on mutual respect, not one built on fear and monitoring.

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